We all have relationships that we want to improve on. Whether that’s with a loved one, colleague, family member, etc., relationships are a part of our existence.
As a parent, I’m always looking for ways to improve my relationship with my child. To a great extent, we already know what we should be doing to strengthen our relationships with others. At least we have a fair idea.
Circumstances and people are very different, so naturally, what you do should be tailored to fit your situation. However, here are some little things we can generally do to improve and add value to the relationships we have with others.
I’m by no means a relationship expert or an expert of any kind. These are just some ideas I’ve used and researched to help set things in motion if you’re looking to improve your relationship with others.
How To Improve Your Relationship With Others
These ideas will help you build more healthy relationships with others. A few things worth thinking about when you have a partner or family member you care about.
It’s essential to find ways to positively impact their lives on a regular basis. Making a positive impact on other people’s lives applies not just in relationships with people we love but in life as a whole.
Accept your differences
Nobody has the same set of values, characteristics, and beliefs that you do. We’re all different. It’s okay to accept that instead of pushing people to change.
Taking other people for who they are will also help you accept yourself better. An excellent place to start is to accept the fact that you’re always going to meet people who are different.
Find a way to make your differences work. Use this acceptance as a stepping stone to forming a closer bond with them. Understand what they stand for and what their values are by listening to them.
Be a good listener
To form strong relationships with others, you need to focus on listening more than talking. You know what they say about having two ears and one mouth for a reason. So you can listen twice as much as you speak.
People want to feel like they’re heard and appreciated for what they’re saying. No matter how meaningless it can seem for you.
So don’t just listen to respond, but listen because you care about what they’re saying. Being a good listener is a determining factor in not just developing relationships but in maintaining them.
Give people your time
Time is the most fragile and concrete thing in life, and it’s something you can’t buy. You can’t get more of it. Giving someone your time means everything.
Especially when you realize that you never know how much time you’re going to have with that person. To improve relationships and friendships, give them the gift of your time by spending quality time together.
It’s something they’ll cherish forever.
Learn to open up
Vulnerability and honesty are both essential aspects in improving your relationships with someone. Let people know what’s going on with you.
You need to establish enough trust to open up to them about your feelings. Even when you have dark days, it’s okay to let them know too. It doesn’t have to be only the good stuff that you share.
You can’t build a strong connection just through your best days alone. It’s also about the days you’re vulnerable and honest about what you feel, no matter how dark they are.
Make others feel appreciated and heard, through your words and your actions. This means not jumping into the assumption that they already know how much they mean to you.
Don’t hesitate to show people how much you appreciate and care for them. Whether it’s in the form of compliments, surprising them with gifts, or your presence. Something you know they’ll value.
When others are opening up about their problems, insecurities, and fears, acknowledge it. Give them the validation they need. This comes in the form of empathy.
See things from their perspective and show them the compassion they need. This helps to validate their feelings. Through kindness, they see they can trust you with their darkest moments. Which can only build a stronger relationship between you.
Be open to compromise
Everyone can’t always have things their way, including you. So be open enough to compromise and meet things halfway. No relationship can work when it’s only one-sided.
You need to compromise and adjust certain aspects of your life. Not because you don’t have your own preferences but appreciate theirs do and find a way to blend them.
Don’t lash out when angry
The worst mistake you can make to push people away for good is to say something you didn’t mean out of anger or resentment.
You can’t do this because even if you didn’t mean the hurtful words you’ve said, you could never take it back, and they’ll never forget the pain you’ve caused. So always be careful of what you say and keep your emotions in check.